Dear Annie

12/4/19

Dear Annie,

I am writing this letter to share my feelings with you.

I am angry that you still have not reassured me about not cheating on me. It upsets me that you know that I'm feeling insecure about this and you don't say anything. I'm angry that months later you brought it up again with the slut shaming comment as if you've already done something that is justified, and I'm slut shaming you for it. I'm frustrated with this feeling of helplessness in being in the unknown on this subject.

I'm disappointed you got upset with me for sharing my insecurity with you and accused me of slut shaming you. I'm disappointed that you don't even know that affairs can be emotional. I'm sad you won't just reassure me. I want you to be able to see my insecurity and reassure sure me so I can begin to heal the insecurity.

I'm afraid you've closed your heart off so much to me that you found someone else. I'm scared you don't see me as your soulmate and have emotionally moved on. I'm also scared that you are no longer in love with me. I feel worried you needed to find someone to listen to you and feel special with even if there is nothing physical going on.

I feel really embarrassed how insecure I am in this. I feel ashamed of how crazy this is making me. I'm sorry for not just knowing and trusting. I'm sorry I made you feel like I thought of you as a slut. I didn't mean to give even the slightest implication I think poorly of you.

I love you. I understand you're dealing with your own thoughts and feelings, and maybe you don't have anything to say about it right now because you're so hurt. I appreciate you for not being disgusted with me and thinking less of me for being insecure. Thank you for always taking the high road. I know you love me as a person.

P.S.

The response I would like to hear from you:

I'm sorry for not reassuring you. I was upset because....not because I couldn't reassure you. I have not had an affair physically or emotionally. I love you - I do believe (you are my soulmate) or (there is a place in my heart that is in love with you) but it is covered with hurt, and I need time to heal.